As many of you know, I have worked with hundreds of men seeking to improve their dating life. I cannot count how many men I've seen go for socially retarded to successful with women, leading happy social lives, getting married to a woman they truly deserve, or leading a dating life most people could only dream of.
After all of this time, I have realized that there is one simple factor that is more important than anything else when it comes to improving this area of your life. Without it, all of the techniques, knowledge, and even practice is next to futile.
The first step, vitally important to your success with women, is to believe that you deserve success with women. Truly believe that you, as socially awkward, challenged, or experienced though you may be DESERVE to have beautiful, intelligent, drama free women in your life.
Not that you'd like to have a pretty girlfriend, not that you might be able to improve your social skills to the point where you get the quality of women you want, and certainly not that you're just not ready yet or don't deserve the kind of women you want.
If you don't believe you're capable of graduating college, don't think you're smart enough, or just think you're not ready yet.... The overwhelming odds are that you will NOT graduate college. Success with women, however you may define it, is the same way.
In my experience of coaching and meeting with everyone from socially awkward virgins to the world's greatest dating coaches, I have yet to see anyone who is dedicated and believes they deserve and are capable of success with women not achieve it. Nor have I seen anyone get truly good with women who does not, and has not first believe they deserved such success.
It is up to you, and only you, to take this first step before expecting great or even mediocre results from your efforts.
Deal with yourself first. Ask yourself if you truly believe you DESERVE great women in your life. Ask yourself if you truly believe you are WILL have great women in your life. If you do not answer affirmatively to both of these questions, your chances of success are less than signficant.
Ask yourself WHY you don't believe you deserve to be successful and happy in your dating life. I've heard and seen all sort of limiting beliefs... Personal/Mental handicaps, weight issues, deformation, and defects that are so small nobody else notices them yet people are CONVINCED that is what is keeping them back. However, I have also seen many individuals overcome GREAT obstacles to become AMAZINGLY successful with women.
You can do it too, but you'll get nowhere before you take this first step.